How can I stop meeting my beloved, when their captivating charm takes away all my self-control?

Here, the poet captures the sweet helplessness of being completely smitten, asking how anyone could reasonably expect him to walk away. The beloved's charm (dilbari) isn't just pleasing—it is an overwhelming force that gently disarms his sense of free will and self-restraint (ikhtiyar). In the world of ghazals, this loss of control isn't a defeat, but the ultimate and willing surrender of the heart to beauty.